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Tuesday, August 27, 2013

False Allegations and Personality Types

    se Allegations in Divorce and Custody Battles: The PersoFalnality Types of False Accusers and the Falsely Accused

The following article is from the August 23, 2011 AVfM Radio program on the criminal practice of making false allegations of abuse in order to gain the upper hand in divorce and custody battles. The radio version was edited down due to time constraints. Here’s everything I wrote for the show in its entirety:
Too many men have become the targets of false allegations. False allegations of domestic violence. False allegations of sexual assault. And false allegations of sexual abuse.
False allegations are lies and people who make false allegations are liars. A false allegation of abuse isn’t just any lie; it’s one of the most contemptible lies that exists. Even one victim of such a despicable lie is one victim too many.
Oftentimes, when a man finds himself the target of false allegations, he initially becomes paralyzed by shock and disbelief that a woman he once loved or still loves could perpetrate such a horrible lie upon him. The nightmare of false allegations is always compounded whenever children are involved.
What precipitates these kinds of false allegations?
Domestic violence literature holds that ending an abusive relationship is often the most dangerous time for the target of abuse. The classic stereotype is that of the alcoholic Neanderthal who beats his wife to death as she attempts to walk out the door after years of abuse.
For men, ending a relationship with an abusive woman is also often the most dangerous time.
Just like his female counterpart, when a man makes the agonizing decision to divorce an abusive wife, it may end in violence. Stories abound in the news of women killing their ex-husbands and their own children during divorce and custody battles. But women have another weapon at their disposal, which is just as lethal as any firearm or poison.
That weapon is the false allegation.
Many men, despite having been subjected to years of abuse, come a cropper when their ex makes a false allegation. How could someone you once loved and who supposedly loved you tell such horrible lies?
The simplest answer is that women who perpetrate false allegations are malicious and disturbed. Men also make false allegations and those that do are equally malicious and disturbed, but let’s face it, there are clear tactical advantages for women who fabricate false allegations.
Over the last 25 years, as the domestic violence and divorce industries have grown, a perverse system has developed in response to female initiated allegations of abuse in which the accuser is rewarded.
How are women rewarded for making false allegations?
They get attention. The person they hate is punished. They receive social approval. We all hate abusers and pedophiles, right? Look at that courageous woman who’s fighting to protect her child! Female false accusers may also receive free legal representation, welfare payments, free counseling and other support services and support from family, friends and neighbors — in other words, even more attention (Wakefield & Underwager, 1990).
Furthermore, there are very little, if any consequences for women who make false allegations in family court (Green & Schetky, 1988). Ultimately, the false accuser has far more to gain than she has to lose. However, I’m hopeful that we’ll soon be seeing more stories like that of Daryl Guinyard, the man who sued his ex-wife in civil court for making false sexual abuse allegations and was awarded $852,000 in punitive damages.
What happens to men when they’re falsely accused?
Many men experience a very rude awakening when they enter the justice system via false allegations. Perhaps the truth will prevail, but typically not without a considerable amount of collateral damage to themselves and their children.
When a man is accused of abusing a woman or child, any concept of due process and “innocent until proven guilty” flies out the window. Men are assumed guilty until proven innocent when a woman cries abuse or rape.
False allegations can turn a difficult divorce into full out nuclear war.
When a woman calls 911 and alleges violence, a man is often required to vacate the family home. If his wife follows up with an emergency protective order, he must then submit to prolonged alienation from his children. He becomes caught in both the criminal justice system and social service bureaucracies, which may result in jail time and/or court-ordered therapy while the real criminal, his lying wife, wins possession of both the children and the marital home.
Men who are falsely accused by their exes also face the threat of presumably well-intentioned, but zealous and biased mental health professionals and court evaluators who are quick to believe the accusations of the often highly emotional, female false accusers based on little to no evidence.
The falsely accused isn’t the only casualty of a court appointee’s or mental health evaluator’s rush to judgment. Both the accused and his children are hurt.
When the false allegations involve sexual abuse, children are subjected to a long process of interrogation, therapies and medical examinations, which can be invasive, confusing and traumatic. The falsely accused often suffers emotional and physical trauma, public humiliation, family breakdown and financial ruin. Furthermore, the relationship with his children may be irreparably damaged.
Fighting to prove his innocence can take years and become a financial expense many men simply can’t afford.
Just as false accusers rarely receive consequences for perverting and obstructing justice, court evaluators and mental health professionals who wrongly determine that abuse has occurred through their own incompetence and biases are rarely held accountable. The people who suffer the most negative consequences are the falsely accused and the children. This isn’t justice; it’s a mockery of justice.
What do we know about women who make false allegations?
Wakefield and Underwager (1990) determined that false accusers are much more likely to have a personality disorder such as histrionic, borderline, passive-aggressive, or paranoid. False accusers appear to be highly defensive and rigid, to have poor insight and a tendency to deny personal shortcomings. They tend to be extremely concerned about and sensitive to how others perceive them. False accusers tend to confuse feelings with facts. A woman may “feel” abused or may “feel” the children are being abused, when, objectively speaking, no abuse has actually occurred (Zepezauer, 1994).
Wakefield and Underwager (1990) found that:
[False accusers] are likely to misperceive the behavior of others and to react to stressful situations in maladaptive ways. Depending upon the specific personality disorder, they are characterized by instability of mood, impulsivity, inappropriate emotional overreactions, a need for approval and attention, and difficulties handling anger and conflict.
False accusers also have an obsessive hatred of and anger toward their ex-partner, so much so that their hatred and anger become a driving force in their lives. False accusers are individuals who hate their exes more than they love their children. Their hatred and anger trumps the needs and much ballyhooed best interests of their children.
What do we know about men who become the targets of false allegations of abuse?
They tend to be your average nice guy who has a more nurturing and passive personality. These men are unlikely to be socially aggressive or competitive and tend to lack insight into their personal relationships, which may explain why so many of these men are thrown for a loop when their ex throws them under the bus — even when she’s made threats throughout their marriage to call 911 and have him arrested (Wakefield & Underwager, 1990).
Additionally, these men, because of their sensitive and caring natures, may be more vulnerable to relationships with needy and manipulative women. Once in a relationship with a high-conflict (HCP) and/or abusive personality disordered woman (APDI), they may behave somewhat passively as they continue to naively hope that everything will magically work out in the end.
What are the identifiable characteristics of false allegation cases?
Ross and Blush (1987; 1990) have found certain patterns that characterize false allegation cases. For instance:
  1. The allegations start after separation and legal action commences.
  2. There’s a history of family dysfunction with high-conflict and other hidden underlying issues.
  3. Again, the female accuser is often a histrionic or borderline personality.
  4. The female accuser takes an angry, defensive and justifying stance.
  5. The accused male parent is generally nurturing, passive and lacks “macho” characteristics.
  6. In alleged sexual molestation cases, the child is typically a female under the age of 8.
  7. The allegations surface via the custodial parent who is typically the mother.
  8. The mother takes the child to an “expert” who corroborates the abuse and identifies the father as the culprit.
  9. The court reacts to the expert information by terminating or limiting visitation.
Ross and Blush also determined there are primarily three types of false accusers: the histrionic, the justified vindicator and the borderline.
The histrionic personality appears anxious and presents herself as the victim of her ex. She describes herself as physically and/or psychologically abused by her ex and worries that the children are also in danger of being victimized from him. She projects or superimposes her feelings, fears and distortions onto the children. She seems to have “unusual and inappropriate” sexual concerns about the children and may regularly examine the children’s genitals and take them for frequent medical examinations.
The justified vindicator initially presents as assertive and organized with a justifiable argument supported by “facts, figures and opinions supporting her evidence.” She comes across as outraged and worried about her ex’s behavior. However, as most high-conflict types do, she becomes resistant, hostile and passive-aggressive or overtly aggressive upon cross-examination of her claims. She’s likely to try to discredit any evaluator or law enforcement official that questions her assertions and may threaten to sue or file an ethics complaint.
The borderline personality has intense and chaotic interpersonal relationships and is prone to intense valuation and devaluation. They will attempt to punish others who they believe have abandoned or hurt them. False allegations are a highly effective way of doing this.
In my practice, I coach many men through the divorce process. Prior to pulling the pin and telling their abusive wives that the marriage is over, I help my clients create a safe exit strategy. I use the phrase “pulling the pin” deliberately, because divorcing an abusive, high-conflict and possibly personality disordered woman is often very much like handling a live grenade.
I warn every single male client who is about to divorce or break-up with an abusive partner that he may be at risk for becoming the target of false allegations.
Many men can’t comprehend how or why their partner or ex could fabricate such a lie. Even when their wives have threatened to call 911 during the relationship to intimidate and control them, they still have a difficult time believing that it could happen to them. Men whose wives or girlfriends have threatened to call the cops during their relationship to intimidate or control them are especially at risk should they decide to separate.
Counseling is not a consequence.
False allegations, even if they’re later disproved, rarely result in a completely happy ending for the accused and the children. Family court and law officials must begin implementing serious consequences — beyond the anemic “consequence” of outpatient counseling — for both women and men who make false allegations. Perhaps if women who are inclined to make false allegations knew there would be real life consequences such as jail time, fines and loss of custody, they wouldn’t be as likely to see making false allegations as a viable option.
Enough is enough.
Services:
Dr Tara J. Palmatier provides confidential, fee-for-service, consultation/coaching services to help both men and women work through their relationship issues via telephone and/or Skype chat. Her practice combines practical advice, support, reality testing and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Shrink4Men Services page for professional inquiries.
References:
Blush, G. L. & Ross, K. L. (1990). Investigation and case management issues and strategies. Issues in Child Abuse Accusations (2) 3.
Blush, G. L. & Ross, K. L. (1987). Sexual allegations in divorce: The SAID syndrome. Conciliation Courts Review, 25(1).
Green, A. H., & Schetky, D. H. (1988). Child Sexual Abuse. New York:Brunner/Mazel.
Wakefield, H., & Underwager, R. (1990). Personality Characteristics of Parents Making False Accusations of Sexual Abuse in Custody Disputes. Issues In Child Abuse Accusations, 2(3), 121-136.  

Ronald Cornett's Petition for Custody




Ronald Cornett's Restraining Order for Protection from Harassment from Jodi Griffing


Monday, August 19, 2013

Woman Jailed after Five False Rape Allegations in Eight Years

Jul 092013
 
Woman is finally jailed after FIVE false rape allegations against her ex-boyfriends in eight years
  • Leanne Black, 32, falsely accused five partners of molesting her
  • Escaped justice for eight years but has now been given two years in prison
  • Judge tells her she has harmed genuine rape victims with her lies
By Daily Mail Reporter
9 July 2013
Leanne Black
Leanne Black
A woman who made a string of false rape allegations against five men in eight years was behind bars last night.
Leanne Black, 32, repeatedly cried rape with bogus sex assault reports to police after rowing or breaking up with her former partners.
In one case, Black claimed she had been drugged and raped. In another she told police a boyfriend kidnapped and molested her.
A court heard that her innocent partners would have faced up to five years in jail if they had been found guilty of such serious sexual allegations.
However, Black was herself jailed for two years, with a judge condemning her actions, telling her that genuine rape victims would be undermined by her lies.
The court heard that, in the most recent case in March, her boyfriend Kevin Crowley was held on suspicion of rape after he had called police to report she had thrown plates at him in their flat.
David Wooler, prosecuting, said officers arrived at the scene of the domestic argument at the home shared by Black and her boyfriend – and she turned the tables on him.
Mr Wooler said: ‘When she was questioned by police she told them her boyfriend had raped her while she slept at his flat.
‘It was the most recent in a number of repeated false rape allegations against men since 2005.’
Newport Crown Court heard that, in June 2005, Black had made a rape allegation but the case did not proceed.
In July 2006, she accused her then partner of raping her twice and also claimed she had been kidnapped and raped. In 2009, she claimed she had been the victim of a serious sexual assault.
And in 2010, she fabricated a story about being drugged and raped. Then, earlier this year, she made the accusations against Mr Crowley.
But she finally owned up, admitting one count of perverting the course of justice against Mr Crowley.
Judge William Gaskell told Black, of Cwmbran, South Wales, she had made it more difficult for genuine rape victims to be believed. He said: ‘Police have to take all allegations of rape very seriously.
‘Rape, when it happens, has a devastating effect for victims and causes great trauma. Many women never get over it.
‘Women who make false allegations like you undermine the whole system and police investigations.
‘It undermines the public’s belief in the truth when allegations are truthfully made.’
Gareth Driscoll, defending, said Black had entered an early guilty plea and made a full admission.
She will serve half her sentence before being released on licence.
Inspector Rory Waring, of Gwent Police, said the sentence should act as a warning to anyone thinking about making false allegations of rape.
He said: ‘As well as causing distress to innocent people accused of this terrible crime, cases like this distract officers from supporting real victims and prosecuting real offenders.
‘Those who have suffered from genuine offences are also undermined.’
Siobhan Blake, Deputy Chief Crown Prosecutor in Wales, said: ‘False allegations of rape are extremely uncommon, but where they do occur they are serious offences.
‘Such cases will be dealt with robustly and those falsely accused should feel confident that we will prosecute these cases wherever there is sufficient evidence and it is in the public interest to do so.
‘Earlier this year, the CPS published a report highlighting how rare false allegations of rape and domestic violence are.
‘We must not allow these cases to undermine our work to support victims of rape and domestic violence.
‘We want victims to feel able to report the abuse they have suffered and we are working hard to dispel the myths and stereotypes that can be associated with these cases.
‘One such misplaced belief is that false allegations of rape and domestic violence are widespread. We know that is not the case.’
Source: dailymail.co.uk




Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships

Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships
- Recognizing the Signs -
by Edward Steven Nunes




Abuse, violence, and lying are behaviors chosen by abusive women to cause emotional damage and worry and fear. These women are often promiscuous, selfish, and narcissistic. So they use their moods, rages, and impulses to control people around her and she cannot be satisfied until all others come to admire her. Then these women choose deceit, fury, and assault to get their own way and then they revel in the addicting exhilarating emotional unrest that they have created. In doing that, she presents a false image of herself to conceal her true character; she is addicted to her own personality and feeds on the emotions of others, for she is a narcissist who is in love with herself. So these women will lie, connive, and extort to get their own way.
These women are actors and their jealousy drives these women to unimaginable bounds while treating their partner as possessions to be isolated from friends and family. Moreover, these women will falsely accuse their partners of infidelity while they have affairs. Nearly all of them exhibit erratic mood changes because they are practiced actresses. That is the reason that they can play the play the multiple roles of the terrorist, the tyrant, the fiend, and the victim. Others tell of this their own books, for the term ‘crocodile tears’ entered our lexicon as ‘hypocritical sorrow’ ages ago.
So at some point, she will falsely accuse her spouse or partner of abuse although she is the abuser. This is simply lying by projection. However, the courts still refuse to recognize this established criminal behavior although the legal term is perjury. This is the reason that false allegations are a common feature in divorce proceedings and the courts continue to ignore the problem. By doing so, the courts have become part of the problem and false allegations have become a shrewish woman's weapon of choice. Nevertheless, the matter does not rest there.
The courts have encouraged all kinds of outrageous behaviors making false claims easy to fabricate and hard to refute. All she has to do is to sign a preprinted paper alleging abuse without affirming the truth of her allegations with no penalty goes with lying. This is why the officials do not allow witnesses speak for falsely accused men. They avoid them. Instead they go in the cover of night, as would a crook, to issue secret restraining orders that an impartial tribunal would not support. So this is irrefutable evidence that courts encourage false allegations of abuse. Any issue at law that is bogus is a lie. Nevertheless, many courts do nothing about it and so the lies continue without change. It is as if they came from a prepared script.
The problem is that when others believe her, they join in with more abuse. Now the frustrated husband or partner finds himself a victim of undeserved malice, defamation, and abuse. So when she does not show up at court, it is his fault and not a sign of her guilt. Justice is never blind to assigning blame to men but always appears blind to the truth. Now it is the courts way and so the abuse continues in an unending parade of broken promises, false hopes, and lies.
These women crave the sadistic erotic pleasure that comes from destroying their husband. So they create a climate of terror. Others call this sensation ‘walking on pins and needles’ because these women cannot be satisfied. This is the reason that she does not change. She enjoys hurting others and she is addicted to the sexual release that often follows her moods. These women have no limits and so their outrageous behavior escalates to unbelievable levels but still, no one believes the victim. While DNA testing might disprove abuse, many courts still refuse to require testing. This only bolsters her belief that she remains in control and that is exactly what she wants.
This is one reason that some women fake or inflict injuries on themselves, or use an accomplice, a relative or new lover, to frame her husband. The most common behaviors are pressing false criminal charges, stealing or destroying property, snatching children, and engaging in bad faith litigation. This is why the courts must treat an abusive wife with unrelenting resolve for she is the criminal and not her husband.
Once your spouse or companion has chosen abuse, end the relationship promptly and irrevocably before she accuses others of her of own behavior. In psychology, the students call this phenomenon projection. So get a restraining order, change the locks and sue in civil court. If the assailant is your spouse, file for divorce and use a recording device to prove your claim. Most have a time/date stamp that is based on an atomic clock maintained by the National Institute of Standards and Technology. Some recording devices have embedded frame counters to discourage frame editing and other tampering.
The courts must realize that many women derive sadistic pleasure by destroying their husbands through extended litigation. Sadism is a perversion where a person seeks (sexual) gratification by inflicting cruelty and mental pain on others. Punishing men for the transgressions of guilty women is wrong and that courts must abolish practice because these women chose to be violent and they chose to lie. They are addicted to inflicting abuse. Abusive women and the mandatory arrest policy are a plague on society and they only add more to the harm.
These women chose to be violent and they chose to lie and nothing can change the evidence that some women are addicted to abusing others. So the police are arresting men for what these women do and DNA testing has proved that. Punishing men for the transgressions of guilty women is wrong and the courts must abolish that practice.

So any threat from her, or her representative, must be considered a credible threat that we cannot ignore. Any claim based on immunity whether judicial or based on gender would be proof of claimant's guilt. Moreover, it should not take years to decide an issue unless the court is corrupt. Stalling and the failure to appear is also proof of guilt. So once your spouse has chosen abuse, end the relationship promptly and irrevocably. Get a restraining order, change the locks and evict the bullying shrew.

Edward Steven Nunes

Notes: Sadism is a sexual perversion in which gratification occurs through the infliction of physical or mental pain on others. Since this evokes a physical and mental response, it often results in cruelty and lying. So these women are, in a sense, emotional vampires and this is true of some men. However, when a woman falsely claims rape or abuse, she satisfying her sexual cravings (debauchery).